Show MoreAnalyse A personal counselling session Counselling Skills 1
Counselling sessions can help us work through a range of personal issues from everyday hardships to potentially life threatening situations. In this reflective essay I propose to put theory to practice by analysing and reflecting upon a one hour session with a professional counsellor. The session is to be recorded so I can refer to particular instances during the session.
By discussing this particular experience in detail, I can begin to understand the specific skills a counsellor may use in many different situations in order to help others (Egan, 2007, p. 13). In this reflective…show more content…
This seemed to be my main focus during the session as I kept reverting back to these problems and she allowed be to do so freely. Here is a word-for-word account during a section of the session, where I was primarily focused on relationship issues. I think it’s important to note the subtle questioning and silence techniques involved and the way the counsellor used these skills to promote further talking and clarification (Clarke, 1998, p. 166). The techniques she used could also help progressively build the client-practitioner relationship so I can feel more disclosure in later sessions (Gabriel, 2005, p.20).
Counsellor - “so how long have you been with your new girlfriend?”
Me- “Um probably about 8 weeks”
Counsellor - “oh that’s great news” (The counsellor then waited silently for my reply)
Me – “Yes, but I’m worried about when my ex-wife returns to the country. I have a large social group but lots of people are still friends with her. I just don’t want it to hurt the new girlfriend as it would be unfair on her.”
Counsellor - “oh, I imagine that would be very hard to cope with. It seems that you must like the new girl quite a lot if you’re worried about seeming unfair towards her.”
Me – “Yeah I do. She’s lovely and has been really caring and supportive towards me, which is
my comments. Similarly, this gentle demeanor helps my clients feel as if they are in safeenvironment in which they can freely speak their mind. Dr. McKee also commented on myvoice and said that it will be helpful to me later on and will allow me to perturb the client whilestill maintaining a non-threatening position.In addition to using the L.U.V technique, having an attentive body language, and a softvoice, I believe I also did well with my use of paralinguistic utterances. To encourage my clientto continue telling her story, I made a
subtle “mmmmmm” noise
when she finished a thought orduring an important segment in her narrative. Furthermore, I occasionally used paralinguisticutterances as a
response and “skipped a turn” instead of
providing a direct feedback. This
practice of “skipping turns” has been hard for me to employee but I’m starting to
understand itsimportance and how to use it.Specifically, social conversation dictates a 50/50 relationship in which one person speaksand one person listens with the roles continuously switching. However, in counseling, this socialnorm is severely skewed in that the counselor listens more and speaks significantly less. Hencethe expression of
cause the counselor is skipping his or her turn in whichthey were supposed to speak. Instead of speaking, the counselor inserts a paralinguistic utteranceor some anticipatory body language to encourage the client to keep speaking.
Aside for “skipping turns”,
it is imperative for a counselor to know how to appropriatelyask questions to his or her client. I also thought I also did well in this area, and asked openquestions that would probe her to more thoughtfully reflect upon her situation. For example, myclient spoke about the importance of getting validation for her profession. Thus, I asked what itwould mean to her if her area of study had that validation. This question lead to her